David and Goliath: The Story of The Underdogs by Malcom Gladwell
Loving our Davids to Liberate ourselves from Goliaths
Written February 2021
What is David?
- Car
- Vulnerable parts of us
- Skill, mindset, truth, “disability”,
Why is David on a road?
- We think of like as a journey where we need to reach some destination
What is a Goliath?
- Road block
- Excuses
- Self Serving Attribution- self protection strategy
- External forces are the reason why we perform poorly or aren't able to achieve things
- Self Handicapping- ready made obstacles
Why do we make Goliaths’
- Comforting
- Rather be stopped then lost
- Pg 148 Ch Jay Freireich. Mac Curdy wrote about the Blitz
- “ We are all of us not merely liable to fear, we are also prone to be afraid of being afraid”
- We don't know where this road goes and it's scary.
How do we get rid of these Goliaths’?
- Same chapter
- “The conquering of fear produces exhilaration. The contrast between the previous apprehension and the present relief and feeling of security promotes a self confidence that is the father and mother of courage”
- We have to understand our own self worth to beat the goliath
- Not just about beating a Goliath. Liberate ourselves from all Goliath’s
LOVE LIBERATES
- Mom compares her daughter to the other influential women. The Daughter says
- Suppose she's right. She's intelligent . She says she's too mean to lie. Let's suppose I am going to be somebody. She released me. She freed me to say I may have something in me that can be of value. Maybe not just to me. That’s love.
- ”She” MOM= Us Daughter= Our David. The vulnerable part of yourself. Skill, mindset, truth, dis
- There’s a difference between acknowledging our David and Loving our David
Now What? Where does this road go?
- Same video
- “Love doesn’t bite. Love says I love you even when you're in China, cross town, or in ireland. I love you. I would like to be near you, I would like to have your arms around me and your voice in my ear. But that's not possible now, so go.”
- We like to keep out vulnerabilities close.
- Coddle it like its a child and protect it from the outside world.
- The mom let her daughter move out.
- Let her make mistakes
- everytime she got hurt or knocked down, she went back home and the mom accepted her with open arms
- We need to accept that were going to make mistakes
- Pick ourselves up.
- When you think like this, road seems less scary
- Let your David out there and let it struggle but also make sure it keeps going because we love our david
- Love Liberates.
Why is it a Road?
- Doesn’t a road only go one way?
- Isn’t a road something that gets you someplace?
- Road is an illusion.
- Something we create for ourselves.
- Gives us direction, path, comfort,
- “ If we keep going forward, we will eventually reach our destination or out potential
- Road represents unconventional thinking
- Like a bike. Goes Forward
- What direction does this go? Does it matter?
- Stop thinking of it like a Road, more possibilities
- Forward, backwards, sideways.
- Car “ David” Big 3D space.
- Cant have a roadblock if theres no road
BUT then why does it have to be a car?
- Back of the book - Goldfish
- Not limited to anything
- No goliaths
- No limit to having to go one direction
- So set destination
- Take risks
- Love liberates and you can push past obstacles
- Once you achieve this mindset/realization
- Biggest vulnerability can turn into your biggest strength
